Personally, I'm of Common Interests Connections camp like you, but my father (taking after his father) has this maximalist approach when it comes to connections. I believe he'd reason it by presenting the utility of having a myriad of friendships and links in life, especially in trying times. When shit hits the fan and beyond - as it seems to have in my adult life now - I can't help but ponder maybe he has a point. Does that ever happen to you?
I think a maximalist approach to connections is good too! (I look for common interests but I accept that these are very rare, so I cast a wider net...) There are many people in my life with whom I don't, or can't, talk about so many of my deepest or most persistent interests, with whom I still have extremely important relationships. In fact this seems to be the norm rather than the exception ...
Personally, I'm of Common Interests Connections camp like you, but my father (taking after his father) has this maximalist approach when it comes to connections. I believe he'd reason it by presenting the utility of having a myriad of friendships and links in life, especially in trying times. When shit hits the fan and beyond - as it seems to have in my adult life now - I can't help but ponder maybe he has a point. Does that ever happen to you?
I think a maximalist approach to connections is good too! (I look for common interests but I accept that these are very rare, so I cast a wider net...) There are many people in my life with whom I don't, or can't, talk about so many of my deepest or most persistent interests, with whom I still have extremely important relationships. In fact this seems to be the norm rather than the exception ...